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What is traditional at a renewal of wedding vowes for a 15th wedding anniversary. Please help i'm at a loss.

Congratulations, Connie, on 15 years of marriage!

At your renewal ceremony, you can start with basically the same ceremony you had when you got married. Then add mention of your children, highlights of your years together, etc. You can have the same attendants stand up with you or maybe your children this time. Maybe you can have the same officiant who married you.

Continued happiness,
Nancy T.

Hello Nancy, I just start planning my wedding and I will love to get married by the sea. My fiance and I visited Sarasota and we loved it. I want to know if you has information about this kind of weddings. I would like to see pictures and decide if it is possible to get married there. Thanks!!!

Best Wishes, Maribel, on your upcoming wedding!

Sarasota beaches are very popular for destination weddings, especially just before sunset. If you visit the websites of our "Officiants" and "Wedding Planners" and "Reception Locations - Waterfront" you'll see pictures of our beaches and of beach weddings. You'll need a Florida marriage license (approx. $95) from any county courthouse in the state. If either of you is a Florida resident, there will be a 3-day waiting period between getting the license & getting married.

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com), you'll find everything you need to plan your wedding.

All the best, Nancy T.

Hi, We are looking for a wedding "helper" in Sarasota. Not really a planner for all the elements, but someone to be the point person on the day of the wedding--and maybe to consult in general. June

Hi, June,

It sounds as though you're looking for a "day of" coordinator. Check our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) for Wedding Planners -- there are several who can help you.

All the best,

Nancy T.

Hi, I am stumped. I need to find a beautiful and romantic setting for my wedding, and it needs to be within 25 minutes of San Jose Airport! I have only found the Mountain Winery (we want a vinyard or special garden setting), no hotel or clubs. Any ideas?

Best Wishes, Jan, on your upcoming wedding!

I am stumped, also. We are located in Sarasota on the west coast of Florida. I am not familiar with the San Jose area. Check with the San Jose Chamber of Commerce for venue ideas.

Nancy T.

I am getting married at the Ringling Mansion and want a musician to play during the cocktail hour. I am thinking steel drums/reggae/beach boys/Jimmy Buffet type music. Do you have any contacts or advice on how I can find someone that performs that kind of music? Thanks!

Best Wishes, Lauren, on your upcoming wedding.

On our website, www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com, you'll find a category for DJs and Entertainment. There are about 5 listings of professionals who can provide just what you want!

Nancy T.

I would like to ask you to help me find a beautiful, yet afforable venue to have my recption. do you have any suggestions???

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

On our website, www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com, are two categories -- "Reception Locations" and "Reception Locations - Waterfront." There you'll find links to approximately 24 wonderful, diverse venues that suit a variety of tastes and budgets.

Nancy T.

Hi Nancy, My fiance and I are planning on getting married in Sarasota on 11/11/11. We actually met at a barbecue at Lido beach.. so we are hoping to get married on the beach.. close to Lido area. Any suggestions? (Also, I have lived in and am pretty familiar with most of Sarasota.)

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding, Jillian!

You and your guests can stay at one of the resorts on Lido Key and get married on "their" beach or the public beach.

Click on www.LidoBeachHolidayIn.com and www.LidoBeachResort.com for info on those venues (located on Ben Franklin Drive).

Check out the other vendors you'll need for your wedding at www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com.

Nancy T.

Hi, we're holding our wedding at the University Park Country Club in April (we're from the UK) with around 25 guests, we want to have some form of entertainment after dinner but are at a loss for what to do as it's such a small intimate number ? Can you help ? Many thanks,

Best Wishes, Debbie, on your upcoming wedding!

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) is a listing of "DJs and Entertainment" where you'll find several companies that can entertain you and your guests.

Nancy T.

Hi Nancy, Im looking for a banquet or hall in Sarasota or Bradenton where we can bring in our own catering. Please Help!

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Check out www.ChelseaCenter.com in the Gulf Gate area of Sarasota; www.SarasotaBradenton.Place.Hyatt.com near the Airport; and www.ClermarkEquestrian.com in east Bradenton.

Nancy T.

Having a hard time deciding whether a DJ or live music would be better suited for a wedding...help!

Best Wishes, Nancy W., on your upcoming wedding.

After budget, I think it would come down to personalities. These are the people who will establish the timeline and flow of the reception -- introducing the wedding party, making announcements, keeping your guests dancing, etc.

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) are listings for both. I'm sure there are people who can fit your budget and customize your reception.

All the best,

Nancy T.

where can i find an affordable elegant wedding vendor in either Sarasota, North Port, Bradenton, Port Charlotte or Punta Gorda florida...? Help!!!

Congratulations, Deon, on your upcoming wedding!

You didn't mention what type of vendor you need -- caterer, florist, photographer? Or what you consider "affordable" (everyone's budget is different).

However, you did find our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) which has info on approximately 75 wedding vendors who have been screened and approved to join our group. Every type of vendor you'll need for your wedding is included and they service Sarasota, Bradenton, and the surrounding areas.

Best of luck,

Nancy T.

Looking for yacht rental for wedding reception 30 people catered June 11 2010.

Best Wishes, Connie, on your upcoming wedding. Check out Marina Jack II, a beautiful yacht that is at the Sarasota Bayfront restaurant "Marina Jack's." (941) 365-4232; Banquets@MarinaJacks.com

Nancy T.

Do you guys plan small beach weddings. Siesta Key perhaps?

Best Wishes, Mandee, on your upcoming wedding!

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com), you'll find several wedding planners who can coordinate your small beach wedding and several wedding officiants to pronounce you "Husband and Wife." Siesta Key is a very popular spot for beach weddings.

Nancy T.

I would find a place with spannish architecture for photos. that would provide for a small wedding in the sarasota fl.area thanks , Bob

Congratulations, Bob, on your upcoming wedding!

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) is a list of Reception Locations with links to their websites. Take a look at the photos -- I'm sure you'll find something you'll like!

Nancy T.

Do you have classic dresses?

Best Wishes, Julia, on your upcoming wedding!

Visit these websites for ideas and then visit the shops -- I'm sure you'll find the perfect dress.

www.ElainesBridalBoutique.com

www.LaMariee.com

www.LetsGoFormal.com

www.SarasotaBrides.com

All the best,

Nancy T.

Nancy, I had a terrible experience with a photographer, Michael Charles, back in May of 2008. We are STILL waiting on our wedding album that he promised us would take only 6 months. I have reported him to the better business bureau but what else would you suggest doing? Thank, Chad

Hi, Chad,

We hate to hear of any wedding couple having a bad experience. However, the photographer you mentioned is not a member of Elegant Sarasota Weddings, so there is nothing that we can do.

I would suggest you send him a certified letter pointing out that he is in default of his contract with you (you do have a contract, don't you?) and that he must remedy it by (a date of your choosing) or you will take legal action.

Best of luck,

Nancy T.

Do you know any venues to have weddings at?

Hi, Josie,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com), click on "Reception Locations" and "Reception Locations - Waterfront" for listings of many venues in Sarasota and Manatee counties. There are links to their websites. I'm sure you'll find one that suits you.

Nancy T

Have you ever worked with Bijou Bridal located in Sarasota?

Sandy

I have not worked with Bijou Bridal, but I understand that Michael's Formal Wear & Bridal is in their old location. (E-mail: Michael.mfw@gmail.com; Website www.LetsGoFormal.com).

Nancy T.

I need to find a chapel on the water around sarasota/bradenton area do you know of any?

Hi, Jennifer,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Waterfront property is too expensive for most churches to own. I don't think Longboat Island Chapel is on the water. There is Roser Church on Anna Maria Island, but I don't know if it's on the water. Mary's Chapel at Spanish Point in Osprey is not on the water.

I think your best bet would be a restaurant on the water or even just the beach.

Nancy T.

Hello Nancy, I was just wondering what's your suggestion on making your own centerpieces? I don't want to go over board on my budget, and I also don't want them o look cheap. Can you help me out please???

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! I don't know what your theme or color scheme or budget are, or how "crafty" you are, but here are some centerpieces I've seen:

Flowers and/or candles (of course)

Small glass bowls filled with seashells & a votive candle

Live butterflies in little cages with live flowers

Instead of 1 large wedding cake, a small cake on each table

Something NOT to do, live fish in glass cylinders. Don't know if it was the chlorine or the water temperature, but by the time the ceremony was over all of the fish were dead. Groomsmen were scooping them out before the bride had a chance to see them!

Also, ask your wedding party, friends, and families for suggestions (and assistance putting the centerpieces together).

Nancy T.

Daughter ... Misty ... wants a complete package wedding .. perferably on the beach ... Siesta Key or better ... mid Jan/10. What would ball park cost be? All enclusive ... Misty and Jeremy live in Las Vegas, NV Dad (Englewood, FL). Don Miller 16 people @ $1300 ea?? 941-473-1333

Hi, Don,

Your question is too broad for me to get into. I'd recommend contacting the wedding planners on our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) -- they should be able to work with you to determine what "all inclusive" includes.

Nancy T.

what will be a good venue for ceremony in sarasota other than the resorts, public beach and the expensive masion, and art places?

Best Wishes, Maria, on your upcoming wedding! At our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com), click on "Reception Locations" and "Reception Locations - Waterfront" and "Yacht Charters" for links to country clubs, banquet halls, boats, and restaurants. In addition to having your reception at those locations, you can also have the ceremony there. Added plus -- your guests won't get lost going from wedding venue to reception venue! All the best, Nancy T.

I'm planning my wedding for Nov.7 and I need some information about the reception cost.

Best Wishes, Luz, on your upcoming wedding!

Your reception cost will depend on number of guests and menu selections, as well as bar costs.

Nancy T.

Hi I am looking for a house to rent for my wedding reception. Do you have a list or web site that show all the larger houses for rent. looking for the siesta keys area.

Hi, Sabrina,

Best wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Check with the wedding planners on our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) for possible beach house rentals on Siesta Key.

Best of luck,

Nancy T.

My fiance and I are getting married on Oct 3rd 2009. We're thinking about doing a beach wedding but we're having trouble figuriing out what to do about a reception. We're on a tight budget and expect around 50 guests. We don't have much financial help from our families so do you have any ideas? We were thinking about getting a private room at a restaurant and that way we wouldn't have to do much for decorations or renting tables and chairs but then we'd still be responsible for everyone's meals and drinks which could be a lot! We were also thinking about finding a place that we could rent a room and have everyone cook something and bring our own food but then decorating a big room and renting chairs and tables could be a lot too. Do you have any suggestions or having any ideas?

Hi, Lauren,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

You could have a catered reception (you control the menu and price) or a potluck or cookout on the beach with rented tables & chairs.

If you went to a restaurant, you could select a menu (2 or 3 entrees for your guests to choose and limit alcoholic beverages to beer and/or wine) and control the budget that way.

You could rent a reception hall, which usually has tables & chairs, do a potluck, and you provide the bar setup and decorations.

Seashells make great decor, inside or out, and they are free. Your wedding cake can be decorated with edible seashells.

You have plenty of options -- enjoy!

Nancy T.

We decided to try and have the wedding at South Lido Beach do you know by any chance if any permits are required to have it there?

Hi, Lauren,

Check with Sarasota County Parks & Recreation Dept. regarding the most up-to-date info on permits.

Their phone is 941-861-5000.

You'll also need a Florida marriage license from any county courthouse in the state.

All the best,

Nancy T.

Hi, How can we "wow" our guest, yet keep our wedding fresh and simple? We are planning an outdoor ceremony and I'd love to do something unique, any ideas?

Hi, Jerelyn,

Have you considered a butterfly or dove release?

You could have a "green" wedding. You could plant a tree. If it can't stay there, water (from two vessels) a small potted tree and then take it home to plant in your yard. You could give your guests packets of flower seeds.

If a beach ceremony, how about the unity sand and/or blessing shells?

You could have the ceremony and reception on a boat.

If the weather will be hot, you can print your ceremony program on hand fans. Bottles of water can be labeled with your names and wedding date. Just be sure someone is delegated to pick up everything after the ceremony.

Best Wishes,

Nancy T.

Hi! I am working on planning my wedding for next year on May 22nd. The ceramony will be at his parents home on Anna Maria island. I am looking for some different options for the reception. I am planning for about 100-125 people. Do you have any ideas? We want to have access to the beach as well. Thanks!

Hi, Keren! Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

If your in-laws' home is on the beach, maybe you can have your ceremony and a catered reception there.

If not, you can go to a public beach or to one of the waterfront restaurants.

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) click on "Receptions -- Waterfront" for nearby venues and dinner cruises.

Best Wishes,

Nancy T.

If I can only have/only want about 150 ppl at my wedding, how many ppl do i invite?

Hi, Alene,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Easy answer: 150. But, we know it's more complicated than that. There will be friends & relatives who you would certainly want to invite, even if you know they won't be able to attend (due to travel, health, cost, other plans, etc.). And you would know their situations better than I can guess.

If there are 25 people who you know won't be able to attend, invite 175.

The less notice you give them, the fewer will be able to attend. If the wedding is 6-12 months away, and you're sending "Save the Date" notices now, more will be able to attend.

If the 150 limit is set by the local fire department for a building, you certainly can't go over. If the venue can only set for 150, you can't go over. Caterers can usually accomodate a couple of extra guests above the final head count you give them (depending on your menu selections).

All the best,

Nancy T.

small wedding 35-40 prefer on beach but able to be inside if it rains reception of tapas and buffet.

small wedding 35-40
prefer on beach but able to be inside if it rains
reception of tapas and buffet.

ANSWER:

Best Wishes, Marta, on your upcoming wedding!

On our website (http://www.elegantsarasotaweddings.com/), check out the "Reception Locations Waterfront" where you'll find links to a variety of venues.

All the best,

Nancy T.

Are there any nice little quaint wedding chapels in Sarasota that would be good for a small private candlelight wedding. There would probably be 10 people or less attending. Just something very small and private. Looking at trying to do this at the end of July. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you, Troy

Hi, Troy,

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Check out the Manatee Village Historical Park, which has a chapel. It's located in Bradenton.

www.manateeclerk.com/ClerkServices/HisVill/mchvillage.htm

All the best,

Nancy T.

where can i find a low price ,but a nice banquet hall in sarasota

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) you'll find a list of "Reception Locations" and a list of "Reception Locations Waterfront" which have a variety of services and prices.

All the best,

Nancy T.

I am getting married on 11/20 this year at the Hilton on Longboat Key. I recently spoke with a florist and would like to get a price comparison. I have some ideas of what I'm looking for. I only need flowers for the bride (me) and the bridesmaid, then 2 to 4 stantchions (sp?) for the beach. Could we chat in regards to flowers? My phone is 317-408-8615---this is a desination wedding for us; we're from Indianapolis, IN.

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding, Mandi!

First, let me say that I do not work for Beneva Flowers. Second, let me say that whenever I see an arrangement that makes me say "WOW!" -- it is an arrangement done by Beneva Flowers. If you have not already contacted them, I recommend that you do.

All the best,

Nancy T.

I need help!!!!! I cant seem to find a venue that not only fits my budget but also my them. and it is crunch time and the stress is outstanding can you help

Hi, Tamra,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! Take a deep breath & relax.

You don't mention your wedding date or theme or budget, so it's difficult to be very precise.

Check out the members listed under Accommodations, Reception Locations, and Reception Locations Waterfront on our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com). You may also want to check with the Wedding Planners listed there.

All the best,

Nancy T.

A few questions! 1. In addressing the invitations, do I have to do Mr. & Mrs. John Doe? (I would like to do John & Jane Doe). 2. How long between the ceremony and cocktail hour can I get away with? (Ceremony - Siesta Key, Cocktail/Reception - Chelsea Center.) What is a good parents gift? What is a good list of songs that ALL the guests are going to enjoy themselves? Thank you!!!!!!!

Best Wishes, Meaghan, on your upcoming wedding!

1. Depends on the formality of the wedding and the invitations. Our website lists suppliers of invitations and wedding planners who can assist you.

2. Depends on the weather. Would your guests prefer to stay at the beach while photos are taken? If not (because of heat, cold, wind, or rain), allow them at least 20 minutes to get to the Chelsea Center.

3. It should be something very thoughtful and heartfelt and that you know they'll treasure.

4. Check out the DJs and musicians on our website. Pick one you like. S/he will have recommendations based on experience.

All the best,

Nancy T.

We are looking to re-new our vows in sarasota,fl. My husband and I and our 3 children,please can you give us some information. kind regards

Hi, Lisa,

Wedding vow renewals are gaining in popularity and there's no better place than Sarasota. Whether you opt for a formal ceremony at an elegant resort or a casual ceremony on the beach, you have plenty of options and can include your 3 children in the ceremony.

Most wedding Officiants also offer vow renewal ceremonies and will work with you to customize your ceremony. Check out the "Officiants" page of our website.

Wishing you many more happy years of marriage,

Nancy T.

What is a normal dance floor size for about 120 people? And how many 3x3 squares should we rent?

Hi, Kim,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Check with Rental Depot (info@arentaldepot.com) or

US Tent Rental (tim@ustentrental.com)

Either one should be able to answer your specific questions.

All the best,

Nancy T.

Hello Nancy, I was just wondering if you have any unique ideas for wedding venues on the beach (i.e. actvivites to do for a night time reception). Kind regards andrew

Hi, Andrew,

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

If you'll be on a public beach, keep in mind there is a curfew and restrictions against open flames, glass containers, and alcohol. If it is turtle hatching season, no lights are allowed.

If you'll be on a semi-private beach at a resort or restaurant, they can probably make suggestions.

Or check with your DJ/musicians/wedding planner for ideas.

I kind of like the idea of Hawaiian fire dancers and a luau!

All the best,

Nancy T.

We are having a beach weeding at Siesta Key in June. What would you recommend for seating as I am worried chairs in that thick sand may be too wobbly???

Hi, Chris,

Your rental company will know the best type of chair to provide when you tell them the location. Usually, they send white folding chairs which seem to work fine on Siesta Key's powdery white sand.

Best Wishes,

Nancy T.

Hi there. I'm interested in having a beach wedding and reception on a dinner cruise for approx 35-40 people. Location would be Long Boat Key area. I need help coordinating this. Thanks.

Hi Mandi,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Check out www.MarinaJacks.com and www.LeBargeTropicalCruises.com for a fun evening.

All the best,

Nancy T.

I am a non-practicing catholic, and so is my fiance. We would like to be married by a catholic priest, but not necessarily in a church (b/c we don't belong to one). Is that possible?

Best Wishes, Erin, on your upcoming wedding.

I certainly can not speak for Catholic priests and suggest you contact one to ask your question. My understanding is that they don't officiate outside the church building and that you must be a member of their congregation.

You do have other options. If you'd like a religious aspect to your ceremony, a non-denominational minister could officiate. If you'd like a non-religious ceremony, a civil officiant (in Florida that would be a Notary Public) could officiate and, if in the future you decide to, you can have the marriage solemnized in the Catholic Church.

All the best,

Nancy

Are there restrictions on renting a Sarasota beach house for a wedding? My fiance and I live in Ohio and it seems like we keep hitting dead ends by searching online. Is there something we are missing or sites that we don't know about? Suggestions? Thank you Emily

Hi, Emily,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

There may be restrictions as far as minimum stay (maybe 1 week minimum as opposed to 1 or 2 nights).

Check out

www.FLVacationConnection.com

www.SarasotaBeachRentals.com

www.AlbeeRoadBeachHouse.com

www.KeysToSarasota.com

All the best,

Nancy T.

Hello, I would like to get your input. I play the French Horn and I am considering starting a business where I hire myself out to play weddings and other special events. I have seen a number of soloists, but they are primarily guitar players. Do you believe that there is a market for this in this area? Thanks, Mike 941-730-5065

Hi, Mike,

I don't know much about French horns -- are they ever played alone? I know there are string quartets that play for wedding ceremonies. Are there brass quartets?

Maybe you need to connect with other musicians or a booking agent?

Best of luck,

Nancy T.

Hello Nancy...Question! My idea of a perfect wedding would be to get married on the beach in Siesta Key but i would like to have the wedding at a large house where friends and family could stay over labor day weekend. I could also have the reception there too. Is this a good idea...have you heard of this or am I crazy?

Hi, Kelly,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! Siesta Key is a beautiful spot to get married and have the reception.

You're smart to be planning now for a Labor Day weekend wedding.

Go to www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com and check out our members listed under "Accommodations" and "Receptions" and "Receptions -- Waterfront." Hopefully, you'll find just what you want!

All the best,

Nancy T.

Hello Nancy, We are looking to be married sometime the Fall (Oct/Nov). we will have approx 50 people. Where on the West Coast can we have an elegant reception on the water...and bring our own caterer. We live in Orlando, have friends in the catering business. THanks for your help! Regards, Kyle and Deborah

Hi, Deborah & Kyle,

Best Wishes & Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

Check our website for a list of "Reception Locations -- Waterfront" and also for a list of "Accommodations" (where you may be able to have the ceremony & reception if you and/or your guests will be staying there).

All the best,

Nancy T.

hi nancy. i am planning to be married in may 2010 i live in england and would like to get married on siesta key beach, so i wondered how i go on sorting it out. picking the right beach ceremony package. thanks kate.

Hi, Kate,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! Siesta Key has beautiful beaches.

If you'll have quite a few guests and need assistance planning the wedding, check out our "Wedding Planners" at www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com.

If your wedding will be small and simple, check out our "Officiants."

You'll need a Florida marriage license (from any county courthouse in the state).

All the best,

Nancy T.

I currently reside in the Uk and am a british citizen hoping to marry this october whilst holidaying in sarasota. Could you please let me know what the requirements are for getting married in florida if you arenot a us citizen and where we would be able to get married. Many thanks

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding, Tracey! October is a beautiful time of year here in Sarasota, Florida.

If neither of you is a Florida resident, there is no waiting period between getting your Florida marriage license and getting married. Only Florida residents have a 3-day waiting period.

You can get a Fla. marriage license at any county courthouse in the state. Cost is approx. $95. They will want to see photo ID (such as a passport). If either of you has been married before, bring your divorce papers with you.

There is a courthouse in downtown Sarasota at the corner of Main Street & Washington Blvd/Rt. 301. The courthouse will be closed on weekends and on Mon., Oct. 12.

You can get married almost anywhere (as long as you're not trespassing on private property). Beach, garden, museum, resort -- all popular spots! Some charge for the use of their venue, some are free.

All the best,

Nancy T.

I am looking for a beautiful, coastal location for my wedding. I would prefer it to be on the beach, with the reception to follow in a semi-nearby location. Do you have suggestions for an outside venue? Thank you for your time and I look forward to hearing back from you.

Best Wishes, Nancy, on your upcoming wedding.

From our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) please visit the websites of our "Reception Locations - Waterfront" members and our "Accommodations" members for photos of their venues and surroundings. Our members are in Palmetto, Bradenton, Sarasota, and Longboat Key -- all beautiful areas for beach or waterfront weddings.

All the best,

Nancy T.

Hi! I hope you can help; Our wedding is one year away. We have 125-150 expected guest, I want to make it nice but I seem to pick the most expensive places. Can you recommend a facility that could fit a total budget of 15,000? Thank you

Hi, Khara, Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) are two lists: Reception Locations Reception Locations (waterfront) Visit the websites of our members listed there to get an idea of what they are like. Then contact the ones that interest you most to get quotes. If that is overwhelming, hire one of the consultants listed under: Wedding Planners. All the best, Nancy T.

Last year i went to an event in Sarasota FL that had a DJ named Jeff Collins. Do you know how I can reach him to do another event?

Paul

Thank you for contacting Elegant Sarasota Weddings. Unfortunately, I am not personally familiar with a DJ named Jeff Collins. If you want to check with a few with our Network Members, visit http://www.elegantsarasotaweddings.com/weddings/djs-entertainment and you can email or call them directly to see.

With Warm Regards,

Terri J. Schubel

Director for Elegant Sarasota Weddings

941-308.-3125

We're considering a wedding planner. Any suggestions? Ceremony at Longboat Island Chapel and reception at Crosley Museum

We're considering a wedding planner. Any suggestions?

Ceremony at Longboat Island Chapel and reception at Crosley Museum.

ANSWER:

Here are the websites of 4 well-respected local wedding planners.

Choose the one that best fits your personality and budget.

www.ElainesBridalBoutique.com

www.NKProductions.net

www.RumbunktiousProductions.com

www.FloridaSunWeddings.com

Best of Luck,

Nancy T.

I would like to get married on Siesta Key. I am not sure who to call or how to get started. Do you have any suggestions or is there a book with all the venues in it?

Jean, Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! Siesta Key is a beautiful location for weddings.

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) are listed various Accommodations, Reception Locations, and Reception Locations Waterfront. That is a very good place to start -- you can see photos of their sites.

You can get married on one of "their" beaches or on the Siesta Key public beaches (check with Sarasota County Parks & Recreation Dept. about getting a permit).

Best of luck,

Nancy T.

How much is the charge for a Photographer?

Lexania, best wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Once you decide on date and location of your wedding, decide what photos you'd like the photographer to shoot.

Some brides have the photographer for the whole day -- photographing everyone getting ready for the wedding, shooting during and after the ceremony, getting the family group photos, and photographing the reception.

Other brides hire the photographer for only the ceremony itself.

After viewing the websites of the many fine photographers listed on our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com), set up appointments with several of your favorites to view their portfolios. Discuss your needs and wants and get a quote from each.

All the best,

Nancy T.

need help planning beach ceremony on April 18, 2009 in or near Siesta Key, FL. Son-in-law in military so timing is important. Must find venue, lodging, reception dinner, ~ 40 guests. Please call 540-239-0718.

Hi, Suzie,

You may want to work with a wedding planner/coordinator -- there are several well-qualified ones on our website (http://www.elegantsarasotaweddings.com/) as well as several officiants.

All the best,

Nancy

I am wanting to plan a summer 2009 wedding on Siesta Key beach in Sarasota, FL. I reside in Muncie, IN and would need to do all my planning here. Where do I start? Thanks, Megan

Hi, Megan,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

If you're planning a large and/or complex wedding, you need a destination wedding planner/coordinator (there are several listed on our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com).

If you're eloping or if it will be a small ceremony, you may be able to get by with just booking an officiant (there are several of them listed on our website, also).

Because summer is our rainy season, you should have a back-up venue -- just in case.

All the best,

Nancy

Do you know of an antique boat rental? I am having my wedding at the Powell crosley estate and want to leave via a classic wooden boat or the the like. I have had no luck finding anything other than the ordinary boat rentals. I want something whimsical and old to go with the theme of the estate. I have tried craigs list and googled everything. Anything you could offer we be so appreciated@ Thanks! angela

Dear Angela,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding! The Crosley estate is beautiful.

Check with Longboat Limousine (www.LongboatLimousine.com). They have a classic yacht for hire and have picked up brides & grooms at various venues.

Best of luck,

Nancy T.

Our community would like to all renew our wedding vows and spend one night in February. Is this possible and how much would it cost each couple?

Hi, Susan,

Yes, it is possible to have a group renewal of wedding vows. You'd need to check with each officiant (see list at www.elegantsarasotaweddings.com) as to their pricing. They will probably want to know how many couples to determine if a sound system would be required. They will want to know the location of the ceremony, where you'll be staying - Indoors or outdoors, and your possible date. Are you thinking Valentine's Day? Do you want bouquets for each "bride" and boutonnieres for each "groom"? Do you want decorations, flowers, music, chairs, etc.

Guess I have more questions than you do! Good luck with pulling this all together.

Nancy

Hi Nancy, I am looking to have my wedding in Sarasota. I live in Illinois, so I am looking to do a destination wedding, any ideas on where or how I could do this..Thanks!

Hi, Megan,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Especially for a destination wedding, a wedding coordinator/planner is essential. She will know the best locations, time of sunset, best vendors, etc. to make YOUR wedding special and stress-free.

On our website (www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com) are listed several pre-screened and highly qualified planners. Find the one that best fits your budget and personality so that, on your wedding day, you'll be able to relax and enjoy the day.

All the best,

Nancy

We would like to have a beach/sunset wedding this spring. An evening reception for about 100. On a budget so we aare flexible w/ dates places type of food, etc. Will be down to look around this weekend. Any suggestions???

Hi, Pat,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

My personal favorite is Siesta Key public beach within the city limits of Sarasota. The sand is as white and fine as sugar. Lido Key, also within Sarasota, is nice, too. You may also want to visit Longboat Key and Anna Maria Island.

And we get beautiful sunsets here on the west coast of Florida. You can have the ceremony on the beach and also the reception. There are many excellent caterers listed on www.ElegantSarasotaWeddings.com. If a beach reception isn't what you have in mind, check out the Reception Locations listed there.

You may want to wait until May, when room rates go down at most motels. And you can probably get better rates if you book a block of rooms.

All the best,

Nancy

mydaughter is getting married and wants a wedding on the beach in fl. i would like to know where to start, it will be around 50 people and more casual than normal. i would like suggestions and she would like the reception on a sunset cruise. thank you sharon lam hartville, oh

Dear Sharon,

Marina Jack II is an elegant yacht that could certainly handle your daughter's reception. Visit www.MarinaJacks.com for more info.

For a more casual Florida atmosphere for a dinner cruise, visit www.LeBargeTropicalCruises.com for more info.

Since you're planning this long distance, you'd probably want a wedding planner/coordinator familiar with this area. Visit the following reputable planners' websites:

www.ElainesBridalBoutique.com

www.NKProductions.net

www.RambunktiousProductions.com

www.FloridaSunWeddings.com

All the best,

Nancy

Hi Nancy Im getting married and have always dreamed of a beach wedding. We plan on finding a home and moving to Sarasot in the near future all the way from London England. The date for the wedding is 26th March 2009 but i havnt sorted anything yet. Please help i want everything arranged and provided for both us and the guests and the most Timeless memorable as well as romantic beach wedding Lokk Forward to hearing from you

Dear Debbie,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Since the wedding will need to be arranged either while you're still in England or recently after your move to Sarasota, I strongly recommend that you use a wedding planner/coordinator. She will have the connections necessary and will take the stress off your shoulders.

The following are planners with good track records. Check their websites to see which is a fit for your personality and budget.

www.ElainesBridalBoutique.com

www.NKProductions.net

www.RambunktiousProductions.com

www.FloridaSunWeddings.com

All the best,

Nancy

Nancy... are there any bridal shows coming up in Sarasota?

Dear Alice,

Elegant Sarasota Weddings will host a bridal show on Sunday, March 1, 2009. It will be held at the Chelsea Center on Gulf Gate Drive in Sarasota from 1:00-4:00 p.m.

We look forward to seeing you there!

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding,

Nancy

hi nancy would you happen to know of any day-of or month of wedding coordinators? We have one month left before we get married and I would really like someone to take the reigns from here.. thanks!

Hi, Karen,

Best Wishes on your rapidly-approaching wedding! October is a very popular time for weddings in Florida, so you need to quickly book a coordinator.

Following are the websites for four well-respected local planners -- see which one best suits your style:

Elaine's Weddings & Events (www.ElainesBridalBoutique.com)

NK Productions (www.NKProductions.net)

Rambunktious Productions (www.RambunktiousProductions.com)

Sunweddings (www.FloridaSunWeddings.com)

All the best,

Nancy

hello, My Fiancee and i are having bit of trouble. We are running into money problems and looking to get married on 9/15/09 and dont know where to have an elegant, cinderella wedding that is not costly. The other thing is, we are getting pre-married this october 24th, 08 in the court house just before our wedding date- 9/15/09. We are doing this as our own private thing and having a family andf friends thing later on...IS that common? would it be a problem for the marriage in august would we have to let the officiant know we are already married? how do these things work....Please help us....thank you, chrissy and Dave.

Dear Chrissy & Dave,

Best Wishes & Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

It is not that uncommon for a couple to get married in a private ceremony and then have a celebration with family and friends later on. Yes, you'd need to let the officiant know that you are already married and that you want a re-enactment or renewal of wedding vows. Or you could just have a reception/party at that time.

As far as having "an elegant, Cinderella wedding that is not costly," I suppose the least expensive venue would be at your home or the home of a family member or close friend. Parks or the beach would not be a good choice in mid-September because of the weather.

Instead of inviting everyone that the two of you know and everyone your parents know, reduce the guest list to family and closest friends -- that will cut invitation, food, and beverage costs substantially.

All the best,

Nancy

Hi Nancy, I want to do my wedding on the beach like waterfront view for November 1 of this year, I looked at already Croesley Museum but they dont have the day avalaible, please let me know if you have particular place just like that one. Thanks.

Dear Jhohanna,

Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!

Yes, there are many other waterfront venues in the area.

Holiday Inn Lido Beach (www.LidoBeach.net)
LeBarge Tropical Cruises (www.LeBargeTropicalCruises.com)
Lido Beach Resort (www.LidoBeachResort.com)
Longboat Key Club (www.LongboatKeyClub.com)
Marina Jack (Restaurant & Yacht) (www.MarinaJacks.com)
Sarasota Hotel & Marina (www.SarasotaHotelMarina.com)
Mattison's Riverside (www.Mattisons.com)
The Riverhouse at Regatta Pointe (www.ManateeRiverHouse.com)

Please hurry and make your reservation — we're getting into our busy wedding season!

If all of the above are already booked, there is always the beach!

All the best,
Nancy

We are getting married on the beach in mexico. I am wearing a simple sexy wedding dress, my maid of honor is wearing a bright pink chiffon flowy dress. My question is if you have any suggestions on what the groom should wear?

Jennifer,

Thank you for contacting Elegant Sarasota Weddings. It sounds to me like you are having a fun, casual and intimate beach wedding! Kudos to you for not being afraid to show your sense of style and personality... After all, it is YOUR wedding! As for the groom, a popular choice would be a collared linen shirt (in whatever color you like - most brides choose white, or any tropical color/theme to match the wedding), with khaki pants or shorts, and bare feet or sandals. This is a versatile style you can dress up, or go very casual... Whatever works best for you and your groom! Some brides also choose white pants for the groom, with any color shirt.

I wish you luck with your special day, and offer best wishes for a happy, healthy relationship with your soon-to-be-husband!

My wedding is on december 10, 2006. 1. Is it so important to have a wedding organizer? 2. How to find the right / perfect theme for my wedding? 3. My fiance and me haven't done any pre-wed photos and he's taking all things about our preparations too relax.., is it a sign that we are not meant for each other? desperately need for help. sorry if my english is bad.

Jessica,

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Planning a wedding in such a short amount of time can be very difficult, depending on the size of the wedding party and amount of guests invited.

1. Is it so important to have a wedding organizer? I always say yes. The only reason I say this is because my whole take on brides planning their own weddings is that, for some reason, brides decide to take on the huge task of event planning for a single-day event that will come and go so quickly she barely has time to eat... People go to school/college for years to learn how to become true event planners... the real "pro's" so to speak... and those brave wives-to-be end up spending their entire engagement coordinating, scheduling, booking and, yes, sometimes screaming, instead of sitting back and enjoying this oh-so-special time with their fiances!

My philosophy behind this is that brides tend to believe the additional cost of a wedding coordinator is unnecessary and is nothing more than an added expense. What many brides do not understand, though, is that, although this is an "added expense," many (good) wedding planners & coordinators (1) end up saving you that money through discounts with your other vendors (think about it - your planner has been working with these vendors for years... of course they can pull strings!), and (2) offer different types of services, even including strictly "day-of" planning. A wedding coordinator/planner can plan your entire weddings from A - Z, partially plan your wedding (if you've already done half the planning, for example), or simply be there only on the day of the wedding to help coordinate.

Let me put it to you this way... some of the unforseen disasters I have seen brides go through could have easily been avoided had they used a wedding planner. For example, one coordinator I work with always arrives at the ceremony and/or reception locations at least 3 hours before the wedding party is scheduled to arrive, just to be sure everything is perfect. One day, she arrived at a ceremony location only to find that the air conditioning had not been turned on yet! Now, all of my Florida brides will understand, if the A/C is not turned on hours in advance, the bride, groom, wedding party, and ALL of her guests will be miserable and soaked within five minutes of entering that building. Luckily for that bride, she never knew a thing. She arrived, everything went perfectly as planned, and she had the time of her life.

You see, wedding coordinators take care of much more than booking vendors with you. Although they know all of the local vendors, and build close relationships with them which enables your planner to help you choose the professionals that are right for you, they also provide other services you might not ever think of... they carry "emergency kits" filled with sewing needles, safety pins, candies (because brides often forget to eat on their wedding days), hair and makeup supplies, etc., they keep you in line, making sure you've signed all your contracts and paid all your deposits and balances, and most importantly, they handle every bit of "damage control" without you ever having to worry about it. So, back to your original question... YES it is terribly important that you at least consider hiring a wedding coordinator. It never hurts to schedule a consultation with them to see what they have to offer you, and compare pricing.

2. How to find the right/perfect theme for your wedding. Of course, this is something only you can decide. The best advice I can give is that you sit down and write out every theme that comes to mind that you might like to consider for your wedding. What are your interests? What do you like? What are your hobbies? Did your fiance propose to you in a unique way? Does your wedding day fall on a certain themed holiday or date? There are so many factors that can go in to choosing a theme. You can do anything from butterflies and dragonflies, to a "favorite color" theme (all pink, for example), to a city (Vegas, Paris, Bahamas, etc.), to a type of music (Rock & Roll, Country Music, etc). The best and worst part of it all is that there are SO many choices! Write everything down that interests you, consult your fiance, friends, and family, and take into consideration what would be easiest or most difficult to obtain for your wedding. If you wanted to do a "Tiki Heads and Totem Poles" theme for example (yes, it sounds crazy), keep in mind that most Tiki Heads cost upwards of $500! Also, don't forget to search the internet for themes. People with personal web pages (like in Yahoo! Geocities for example) have lots of personality. Look for other themed weddings on the internet, and get ideas from other brides. Like I said, this can be a tough decision, but whatever you go with, make sure it's something that has meaning to both you and your fiance.

3. My fiance and me haven't done any pre-wed photos and he's taking all things about our preparations too relaxed... it is a sign that we are not meant for each other? One piece of advice I offer to friends and brides is this: It's not always about what you love about him... it's also about "What can I put up with? Can I tolerate this?" Sorry lovebirds, I know that's not exactly the most romantic answer, but in some circumstances, it is realistic and something that should be considered. If there's something he does that drives you crazy, you have to ask yourself whether it's really that big of a deal, and if it's something you can tolerate for the rest of your life. If you hate the way he curls his nose when he laughs, okay, you're going too far. But if what you hate is the way he totally ignores you in public, don't take that "gut feeling" lightly. Always give the benefit of the doubt, and confront him about it in a way that he doesn't feel attacked. Don't put him on the defense. Approach it softly, ask the question, and most importantly, don't go any further. Stop, and give him a chance to answer the question. Most men, when confronted with personal questions, or the "We need to talk" bit tend to shut down, or simply say what you want to hear just to get it overwith. If you approach it correctly, and give him a chance to talk right away without inserting your opinion, he will open up and talk to you.

If you don't like it, just talk to him. Most likely, he has no idea that what he's doing is upsetting you, or is even a big deal. Simply let him know "This is important to me. Can we schedule time to get this taken care of? What day works best for you?" Involve him in the decision-making process, and he'll likely show more interest. Still need a little help nudging him along? Reward him! Tell him if he helps you get this done, he can have a night out with the boys, or you'll let him have Hooters wings this Friday (take-out, of course!) You see, women sometimes fall into a sudden flurry of planning, scurrying around the house with fabric samples in each hand, and throwing out foreign phrases like "Of course the reception venue is providing skirted tables and a wishing well!" To him, you're speaking an entirely different language. Don't be surprised if your beau becomes a little stand-offish and downright scared of you when you're in "wedding" mode (if you're one of those brides, that is!)

Most likely, he's just a relaxed kind of guy, and needs a little push. But if you don't know this already, perhaps you should consider getting to know each other a little better before tying the knot. Only you will know what the right thing to do is.